When carried out in the correct manner, flirting can be the initial reason for two people becoming close. The main purpose of flirting is to send out signals to others that you are attracted to them and would like to get to know them. It is just as important for you to learn how to flirt accurately and appropriately as it is for you to recognise when you are being flirted with. By not recognising flirting signs, you risk missing a flirting opportunity which could have resulted in you meeting a very special person. It is essential for a woman to learn how to flirt correctly to avoid inadvertently giving out the wrong impression.
There are a variety of forms of flirting including facial expressions, body movements and conversation and the flirting signs range from winking to the way in which you sit. Whichever flirting sign you choose to use, it is important that you don’t overuse it otherwise you may end up looking silly, especially if you overuse the eyelash fluttering sign.
A facial expression is one of the most obvious flirting signs to express. A woman’s face is often the first area looked at by a man, so the importance of a facial expression cannot be underestimated as it could potentially make or break a flirting moment. Flirting facial expressions include; winking, plenty of eye contact with dilated pupils, rapid blinking, an extended gaze, fluttering eyelashes, rapid eye movement, lots of smiling, licking/puckering/biting of lips, exposed teeth, touching teeth with tongue, reddened skin tone, an arched eyebrow, touching of chin or cheek, stroking hair and twirling hair around her finger. Remember to use these facial expressions in moderation. Simply pick out the ones you would feel most comfortable using and practice them. It may help to look in a mirror and observe yourself, even if it makes you feel a little silly. Without a doubt the most important facial expression is a smile. Not only does a smile show that you are a friendly woman, it also shows that you are approachable which is highly important when flirting.
Body movement plays a large part in flirting and it is this area where many do not realise they are flirting. Whether you are standing or sitting it is important to keep your posture as tall as possible. Not only will this make you feel more confident, it will also make you look more confident, plus help to show off your womanly figure. Your flirtatious body movements may include, sitting open legged facing your flirting partner, pushing your breasts outwards, sitting crossed legged, leaning towards another while maintaining eye contact, playing with your jewellery, touching their hand/arm/shoulder/thigh, you may find yourself copying their body movements, you will expose the palm of your hand to them, exposing flesh from your arm or thigh (not too much), playing with your hands, and seductively moving to music while watching them. As with the facial expressions, it is important not to overuse these flirting signs otherwise you risk giving off the wrong impression or appear anxious and uncomfortable. Select a handful of these body movements which you feel most comfortable using and stick to them. You may find you carry out some of these body movements without even realising, don’t worry about this, if you don’t even realise it then it is natural for you to do so.
Some flirting signs can be very sexy, in particular pushing your breasts out, exposing some flesh from your arm or thigh or sitting open-legged towards another. If you decide to carry out some of these moves, be careful not to go over the top, especially if you are wearing a short skirt or a low cut top. You risk giving the impression that you are only after a sexual encounter, which is not the impression you want to give out when flirting.
People often worry about what to talk about while flirting. Try to discuss a topic you enjoy and are interested in, otherwise you could give off the impression that you are bored and uninterested in both the topic and the person you are talking to. It is also suggested that you keep the conversation positive as the last thing you want to be when flirting is negative. The key conversation flirting signs are, laughing a great deal at what they say and you will find yourself matching the tone and speed of their voice. Also, if the person you wish to flirt with is in a group, you will find yourself singling them out, or if you are being flirted with you will find yourself being singled out.
Whether you choose to use one or many of these flirting signs, the most important thing to remember is to have fun. As long as you don’t overuse the flirting signs and learn to relax and have a good time, you should not have any problems flirting.
Deborah Dixon
