Emily and I were at home after an amazing vacation in South America. We had a blast ... You gotta love frequent flier miles. Our first stop was in Buenos Aires, Argentina, where the only thing better than a great steak is great people. Culture of rich, lots of fun and incredible view dogs leaves changing and falling in May.
It is with this euphoric State (and starved) of the mind that Emily and I found ourselves (for second night in a row) to Cumana, an incredible restaurant (and unfortunately less site) in the District of la Recoleta. how we tell the adventures of the day Quilmes and locro, another couple sat down at the table next to us directly at the Trattoria busy.
The couple started bantering away into the typical Italian-sounding Espanol which is omnipresent down there, and soon it was obvious that this was a first date.Both sharp looking and well dressed, who seemed to share a mutual attraction with their empanadas and malbec.Then, something happened. their phones went off. She had received a text message, which has been read on… and respond.
He asked, "who was that?"
"None", replied.
Despite the fact that he was against what they recommend here for you have put the phone during a first date around, even we had seen the guy in this scenario, the tall man with some confidence and LET IT GO.
No such luck.
Instead, he continued to insist to find out who has been sending text messages. " None ... really, "she maintained.According to Murphys law was therefore right, which received the reply to your reply. growing impatience in a fit of jealousy immature, the boy reached through the table, physically grabbed the phone from the hand of his date and began to read text messages. Slack jawed, the invisible woman looked like his eyebrows began plying. Sure enough, "another boy" had messaged you.
The guy then tossed the phone on the table, crossed his arms, looked sideways and literally began to pout.Not a word was spoken.
Nonplussed, after about half a minute the woman began to beg him to end the deafening silence ... to no avail.His date was too emotionally overwrought wadded up with insecurity for use in that Department.
For clarity, Emily and I really dont mean to be intruders in this whole brouhaha.In fact, at this point we would have rather been spared the pain but is right that this restaurant otherwise incredible places its tables literally six inches from each other. So, like it or not, we were along for the ride.
And indeed, things were terrible enough already.But what will happen expanse that almost cajoled my dinner to surface. Fortunately, the food in Argentina is too good to give back so that wont happen.
The boy began nervously and predictable, blurt out whatever that she should "just leave and go out with the other guy", etc. a display like this was how little one (such as one named "Emily") would have thought that the woman would have him offering and divide.
Once again ... no such luck.
Instead, tried to reason with the man-child through the table text messages of Mr. was "anything for you", "just a friend", etc. but its date continued his view passive aggressive.
Later, as a gasp was heard from the crowd, the woman--end of wit--announced, "Ill pay for dinner Here is 50 pesos!"Still staring at the wall, his date shrugged.
Finally and unthinkably, the woman drove all of his chips on the Board. "Hey ...Im sorry--really, really sorry.We charge your account and youll come home with you and prove it to you! "
And Yes ... they left together, its still advocating and he still pouting.
Emily usual appetite for dessert was completely lost. remember, she is pregnant and didnt get to drink away this painful experience, like the rest of us could have.
She looked at me and managed to say a simple "how?"She was, of course, displaying things from the female point of view.In his eyes, the woman had transferred every Shred of self-esteem potentially available to you.
In fact.But also I was fascinated by the fact ridiculous that: THIS GUY has acted like a total needy WIMP.YET HE PAID THE BILL--AND HAD SEX WITH HIM THE FIRST DATE.
Wait a minute, isnt that the purpose of dating based on a lot of "dating gurus" out there?So in a way, this guy has managed this date?
If ever you to "pay and laity" is the end game, then is undeniable. Dude "won".
But if youre like me, you know that lost somehow still. After all, I havent heard her approach advocated ... um ... everywhere, really. can you put your finger on why this is?
In my estimation, both the boy and the girl in this true story got what they deserve. a woman desperate to be with any man who will approve you will end up with a man who is far less than the ideal male. And a man who somehow keeps a woman around from manipulation through weakness will never, ever achieve greatness with a woman really big. they wont stick around for it.
So the question remains. sure, both have got what they deserved, but they are deserving of what you want? a dinner and a night of "passion" based solely on bargaining is likely that, at best, a Pyrrhic victory. Hell still be jealous while having simultaneously zero respect for yourself And youll find. his deal didnt work, and she did you empty emotionally ... quickly bored or even disgusted with both him and their car. and who wants that?
My challenge to you is simple: this week Is the definition of "dating success" big enough? should be able to keep the wildest of hopes and dreams, not just a "quick fix" And sit tight, thats what were all around here.
Meanwhile, back at the restaurant, Emily and resumed our date with newfound peace. ordered the Flan more surprising that I have ever experienced. We joked, mutually fuelled by dessert and enjoyed each others company more than candlelight. When finished, he paid the invoice (from our joint account) and we returned to our room together ... holding hands. While the irony is implicit, I think the rest of our evening was very different from that experienced by other pair.
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