How to Get An Ex Back After He Dumped You

He promised you the moon but he left you in tears. You miss him terribly and you ask if its really over between you and your ex boyfriend. Will he ever come back? How do you get your ex back after he dumped you?

As the picture depicts, your grief is immeasurable and you’re looking for ways to ease your pain and misery.

I know how it feels to be dumped and to want your ex back. I was like that too, when my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me.

But although you feel that this is the end of the road for you and your ex, it does not necessarily mean that the relationship is over. There is hope of getting him back. You may think that it’s easier said than done, but believe me, many relationships have gone through the cycle of breaking up and making up, and many couples have gotten back together

In this blog, I’ll share with you the method I used to get my ex back after he dumped me. So read on and smile, for soon the  love of your life will be knocking on your door never to leave you again.

Break Up Woes  - What To Do?

But before you even delve into the question of how to get your ex back, there’s a more pressing issue that you have to deal with before anything else.

Think about and consider the reasons for the break up. Is the relationship worth saving?  Was it an abusive relationship, or was your ex abusive physically and/or mentally, controlling, mean, or possessive? Did you or he cheat? If any of these things is true, I suggest you think long and hard about going back to that kind of relationship. It’s vital at this point that you let logic prevail in dealing with the issues and come up with the right decision.

But let’s take it that you truly love your ex and decided that you want to get him back even after he dumped you. You realized that your relationship wasn’t so bad after all, except maybe for a few glitches that can be repaired. And you feel in your heart that it will work given another chance

So, what to do?

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Here are the steps that will turn that ex-boyfriend of yours into your precious “beau”  once again....

6 Steps To Get Your Ex Back After He Dumped You and Make Him Beg You To Take Him Back

1.         Gather Your Strength           

The first thing to do is to gather your strength and get ready to go through the break up process. You need to be in control of your emotions and being strong emotionally will get you through the whole ordeal.

2.         Let him go

Accept the breakup calmly and let your ex boyfriend go without any more arguments or confrontation. If you need to talk or cry, go to your family and friends for the support you need. Do not show your ex that you’re crying and trying to cling to him. Holding on to him will only strengthen his resolve to stay away from you. So be smart and keep your agony to yourself.

3.         Take a leave of absence from your ex. Cut off all communications with him, at least for now

It would help to actually do nothing for the time being. Don’t go out chasing your ex, it will only create more damage than good to your already broken relationship.

As much as the breakup is hurting, it wouldn’t help if you continuously call him and leave him messages non-stop. Give your ex boyfriend the space he needs and he’ll realize how important you are to his life. This way, he’ll have all the time to miss you. Keep in mind that when you try too hard, the other party will pull away.  If he loves you (chances are he still loves you if you’ve been together long), he will definitely miss you and call.

4.         Reinvent your self – Improve your looks and have a new perspective in life and your relationship

Take advantage of your exs absence to re-invent yourself, both your physical appearance and your disposition. Have you been neglecting your looks? Go to a salon and get a new hairdo and put on some make up. Buy new dresses and shoes. Most importantly, through some friends, make sure your ex hears about your new looks. He will definitely fall to his knees when he sees you looking more gorgeous and more confident than ever.

5.                  Go out with friends and have fun

It will help to have your friends around for support and to find things to do that will get your mind off of your ex. Attend social events like art exhibits, concerts, parties, or participating in clubs, or take up a new hobby that will give your self esteem a boost. When you are depressed, it is always good to be out socializing and meeting new people.

6.         Just wait for your ex to make the move to win you back

All you have to do now is wait for your ex to make the move to win you back. As soon as he hears about how hot you look now and about your social activities, he will definitely call or come to talk. This is guaranteed. All you have to do is keep playing your cards right and he will be begging you to take him back soon.

These are initial steps that you may find to be counter intuitive but are, nevertheless, very powerful when used

More Tips on How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back After He Dumped You

Break up is a very stressful thing. No matter how much you try to get your ex off of your mind, you keep seeing his face and you are unable to focus on other things.

Your friends are your greatest source of support in these troubled times. If you have some very close friends, it would be best to stay in their company and just pour yourself out on them and you’ll feel some relief in having someone listen to you. They may not be able to get your ex back for you but you can count on them to hold your hand and give you the pep talks to keep going and to look forward to the future, be it with your ex or not.

Also, in the process of executing your plan of getting your ex back, you can get your friends involved in what needs to be done. For instance, as your plan calls for you to have a physical reinvention of yourself, you can have a friend make sure that your ex hears about your new looks, how good you look in your new sexy mini dress,  and your new activities. I’m sure you and your friends can devise something to make it look like one of your friends accidentally bump into your ex and in talking, your friend tells your ex how gorgeous you look now and what parties or gathering you’ve been to. Your ex will surely begin to make his move the moment he hears these and if he hasn’t called you up yet, he will definitely do so now. It will also be a good opportunity to find out what your ex is up to without you asking him.

Do not make your ex feel like he’s the victim here. It would appear like it if you’re stalking him and calling him non-stop, which is like domestic terrorism. This will totally turn him off and you risk losing any chance of getting him back.

Give your ex the impression that you’re okay with the break up and this will make him re-think his decision to leave you. His head will spin in disbelief when he notices your seeming lack of interest in him. Then he will start to try to win you back, since men can’t stand it when women lose interest in them.

Moreover, if you’ve been in the relationship for a long time, say over a year or more, a strong bond of love has developed between you and when you break up, it is natural for a period of longing for each other to ensue. This is the time when you have to be very cautious and make sure that your ex hears only good things about you. He will go crazy and will be dying to see you when you don’t call him, when he hears how busy you’ve been socially and how gorgeous you look, and when he notices how disinterested you seem to be in him..

If the relationship is built on love, then it can be saved. But then you might say that what worked for others might not work for you because your situation is different. While it may be true that every situation is different, all love and relationship issues have common elements and when analyzed, all boils down to a few differences that can be dealt with successfully. So, however different your situation is, the love, longing for each other, and the shared intimacy are constants that give you and your ex the feeling of wanting to be together again and giving the relationship another chance, no matter who or what caused the break up.

I suggest you use anything you can find useful in this article and apply that to your own case. I’m sure you’ll have a much better chance of getting your ex back with the advice and tips in this article.

Let me stress also the importance of self restraint or self discipline when you go to the first meeting or date with your ex after the break up. I can’t emphasize enough how vital it is to take things one step at a time and avoid jumping the gun. If you make a mistake by rushing things, this could spoil your chances of getting him back and he may lose interest if you make it too easy for him to get back with you.

Play hard to get (in moderation, lest he will think that you have moved on and he may decide to just give up and move on too) and don’t give in to his advances just yet, no matter how much you want to be with him. There will be plenty of time for that later when he is back in your arms for good.

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The Help you Need in Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back After He Dumped You

If you’re like me when my ex boyfriend left me, you’ll need all the help you can get in getting him back. Follow the steps and tips laid out above. These are crucial in getting you in the right path to achieving your goal

The good news is, help is available. There are professionals who can help you tackle your problems and help you achieve your goal of getting back together with your ex. Many of these professionals have long years of experience dealing with relationship issues and conflicts, and they know exactly what to do to make a couple get back together.

There are books on relationship that were written for the sole purpose of making a relationship work and make couples fall in love with their partners over again.They give specific recommendations on what actions to take to make your ex go crazy over you and make him beg you to take him back.

You can get one of these e-books and use the tactics suggested to make your ex come back to you and fall in love with you all over again.

In the next page, I will have a review of the top 3 books on getting back with your ex and help you decide which one to get.let you see what people who used them and applied their techniques have to say.