Emotions can be difficult to pinpoint. They’re intangible, ever-changing, and highly subjective. They’re also everywhere. Emotions infuse many people’s responses to events, particularly difficult ones. They link one individual to another, in both platonic and romantic relationships. Although emotions are a staple of most people’s lives, though in varying quantities, it can often feel like words fail when trying to convey the most intense of them.
It’s little wonder, then, that emotional problems can be the root of turmoil in many romantic relationships. One partner may be quick to turn to intense emotion in most circumstances, while the other is more inclined to reflect on situations calmly. One may allow an outburst of emotion to catapult him or her to action, while his or her partner would rather engage in mental preparation before doing anything.
As for the relationship itself, it is not uncommon to encounter a couple where one person requires a lot of explicit emotional expression, while his or her significant other requires very little. So, one partner may need long feeling-centered conversations to feel emotional satisfaction. The other may find those kinds of conversations unnecessary and, at times, even annoying. Conflicting needs about these subjective factors can contribute to endless arguments and frustration.
There are a couple ways to get your emotionally compatibility back on track. The simplest and most organic way is probably to bond through shared experiences. Make an effort to spend quality time together, even when your schedules are hectic. If you allow an endless string of outside obligations to prevent you from sharing meaningful time with the person you love, you’re paving the way for a failed relationship. Even the most demanding of schedules should not prohibit you from sneaking away a few minutes for your partner.
Another way is to tackle the issue head on. Start by mutually recognizing the importance of emotional fulfillment. Even people who would characterize themselves as mostly logical have some type of emotional needs. Next, lay out exactly what your needs are. You can even write them down. Then, share them with each other. You may be surprised at how different your perceived needs are. After this insight into your significant other’s mind and heart, take action. Respond to his or her needs, and praise him or her when they do the same for you.
