Here are five signs a long distance relationship probably isn’t right for you.
You believe long distance relationships never work out.
It’s absolutely essential that both partners have faith in each other and their bond. If you’re the type of person who believes, deep down, that having a partner who’s far away means your relationship is doomed, you should seriously reconsider ever getting involved in long distance romance. Take a moment to reflect on whether you have faith it’ll work. If you honestly believe it won’t due to distance, that belief will likely be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You aren’t a strong verbal communicator.
With many miles in between you and your partner, communication becomes incredibly important. You don’t have the same luxury of nonverbal cues like couples who see each other every day. You’re drawn together by your words more than significant others who often cuddle on a couch in silence while watching TV.
Without strong communication through phone calls, Skype conversations, e-mails, and online messengers, chances are your relationship will struggle. If verbal communication isn’t one of your strengths, you might want to think twice before getting into a relationship with someone who is far away.
You get jealous easily.
A common concern with having a partner who is far away is that the distance makes it easier for him or her to cheat. For that reason, long distance relationships require a lot of trust. If you feel it’s in your nature to be jealous, being with someone long distance could put you through a lot of emotional turmoil.
This is especially true if you don’t have the utmost confidence in the person you’re with. Unless you fully trust him or her, there’s a good chance jealousy will eat away at the relationship quickly.
You are broke.
All the travel that comes with these types of relationships gets expensive, even if you’re only a few cities away. While couples who are close can cut corners if they need to, couples who are far apart usually require more funds to sustain the relationship, even if they’re really frugal about what they decide to do when they’re together.
This is especially true if airfare needs to enter into the picture. If you know that you both don’t have enough disposable income to visit each other regularly, think about whether you want to enter into the hardship of knowing you can rarely see someone you care about a lot.
You aren’t very busy.
If you find that you often rely on your significant other to make up the bulk of your social life, long distance relationships are probably not for you. Many people who do well with long distance partners manage to keep themselves busy; both people have new events to share with their partner, and they’re also occupied enough not to feel very lonely.
Of course, they miss their boyfriend or girlfriend, but they’re socially active enough to enjoy their life even though their significant other isn’t always there in person. On the contrary, a person whose life revolves around contact with his or her partner can eventually develop resentment because distance tends to make the partner less accessible.
However, if it’s in your nature to respond poorly to all the things that come with long distance relationships, you should think carefully before getting into one. Even though you want to be with someone badly, there is a chance it still might not work because you’re not suited to have many miles between you and the one you love.
